Am I Good Enough?

“Care about what other people think and you will always be their prisoner.”

—Lao Tzu

Ok, I have a confession to make. Up until quite recently (more recent than I’d actually like to admit), I was still struggling with an intense desire to “feel good enough”. I was jumping through all kinds of hoops just to feel like I belonged, to feel like I was worthy. I thought, “maybe if I can show how good of a wife and mother I am, and how happy of a life we have, then they’ll think I’m good enough.” But, to my dismay, that wasn’t enough. I still found myself trying to measure up. So, then I thought, “maybe if I start a successful business, I’ll be good enough.” If I’m in charge of my own company, surely they’ll see my worth. Well, I did that, but the business I founded wasn’t enough to impress those that I felt I needed to prove my worth to. Then I thought, “I’ll go back to school so I can add some extra letters behind my name. That will show them I’m worthy of their respect!” But, of course, that didn’t work either. It took a long time for me to come to the realization that I don’t need others to think highly of me. I don’t need any outside approval. I don’t have to “show the world” how happy I am, I just need to be happy. And I don’t need to prove my success to anyone. I know it’s there and that’s enough.

You see, a lot of us spend the majority of our time looking at ourselves through someone else’s eyes. It’s like we are always on stage, attempting a perfect performance. We can easily get caught up in the social media hype of “look where I went on vacation” and “look at my new house” and “look at all the designer clothes I just bought” that we lose sight of what’s real. We are stressing ourselves out to reach the unattainable. I encourage you to take a hard look at your life and decide who you are living it for. If your answer is anything other than “myself” it’s time to make some serious changes.

Have the courage to be more than just a mere actor on the stage of life. Have the courage to write you own script.

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